Are we born with a blank slate or does everything happens for a reason? I believe, the moment we are born, we are set on a path leading to our destiny.
Everything happens for a reason is the main theme of my memoir, Meant to Be. As a child, my mother instilled this belief in me, hoping it would help me find meaning and purpose from the pain and suffering endured in my home. When I questioned her reason, she continued to encourage me to be still and listen.
A thought provoking statement, one that led me to reach for my courage to survive and thrive.
When we were young, our parents guided us, enrolled us in a school system that taught children to follow a path laid out for their future. Faithfully we followed it hoping to find a successful outcome to increase our status.
See, I failed big time in school, caused an uproar in my relative’s expectations of who I was to them. Alison is not smart enough to succeed, not good enough to hold a job and I never felt a sense of belonging with them.
The one crucial skill that guided me forward was that I think for myself. In this post, I show you why I believe that everything happens for a reason.
Everything Happens for a Reason
Throughout my whole life, I’ve felt a deep sense of purpose to live a meaningful life. Perhaps we are meant to experience more than just our everyday routines. My own experiences, showed me that everything happens for a reason.
All of us in one way or another are connected to that one great truth who consistently whispers from within. Be still and listen!
It is your heart’s desire! That strong pull within you, that yearning to do more with your life. Can you feel it? Your inner guide is calling you, preparing your soul for a chosen path you are meant to be following because it is your mission here on earth.
When there is an abundance of good energy, everything in our life is perfect because the signs are in our favor. But what if you experience unfortunate events like meaningless accidents or abuse, causing you pain and suffering. Would you consider it bad luck? I was told by my relatives that I was fated to suffer a cursed life. To follow the path of my abuser.
It is interesting how people take note of all the unfortunate incidents happening to you, then decide your fate. They seem to get a kick out of another person’s misery. Perhaps it gives them power thinking they are superior to others. Yet my mother explained these events as signs, preparing us for changes taking place.
Does it mean destiny is showing you a way?
There are no Coincidences in Life
Have you ever noticed coincidences that occur around you? Cues orchestrating you to follow a flow? Like a déjà vu moment. You know – where a string of events happen like a domino effect and you feel calmed because you knew it is meant to be.
Perhaps, you were thinking of someone, whom you’ve not seen for a long time, then out of the blue, you receive a call from them. Pay careful attention because the universe is revealing a sign that sparks changes within your surroundings.
There are no coincidences in life because everything happens for a reason especially the ones that grabs your attention.
From the age of four, I witnessed my father’s rage and violent acts against my mother. You see, I was born into a dysfunctional family unit. Was I meant to be suffering a fate of misery? After seventeen years of his wrath and abuse, my father kicked me out.
Forced to step into the unknown, it led me onto a path that eventually became my destiny. I constantly struggled to survive, doubting everything I did. But slowly as I focused on finding a solution, I noticed cues and signs that revealed a different light. I began to believe that there was more to my life, a bigger picture that I couldn’t see. When I was kicked out of home, it lead me on an adventure where destiny called me.
Of Fate and Destiny
Fatum is a Latin word for fate meaning “what has been spoken.”
There is an old ancient saying that our fate is never in our own hands, whatever happens to us has been written according to God’s will. My mom believes in this. As a child she often encouraged me to be responsible for the life I got given, “we are all born with a mission, a purpose showing us why we exist and it is our responsibility to find out what our purpose is so we can fulfil it because it is our destiny.
If our fate or destiny is really in the hands of Gods or the Universe, how do we find our destiny?
I believe that whatever you are looking for in life is actually within you, waiting for you to take that first step into discovery. The unfortunate circumstances in my life were all planned out, even before I was ever born. My destiny had already been written and spoken for.
When I accepted every unfortunate experience, my spirit grew stronger. I learned to trust this process, believing it would lead me to where my destiny called. With powerful faith, I never gave up believing that I could find meaning in my life, to live with purpose. How did I do this?
Be Still and Listen…
For years I chased after a dream, believing I could make things happen in my life. I never gave up on my family and extended relatives, they gave me up. For a long time I roamed this world thinking I was alone. In my moment of solitude, I listened.
Reflecting on my past experiences, I realized the rejections, failures and disappointments I experienced were actually signposts leading me into a different direction. Every time I made a choice, somehow deep inside I knew what I had to do. How did I know all this? Your soul knows the way. Find the courage to keep going, take leaps of faith and jumped into the unknown.
In our world, fear has become a disease latching onto our very soul, steering us off our chosen path.
As a child, I clung onto a belief that the violence at home was not a meaningless act against me but rather a sign, awakening me to see a bigger vision of a plan I was not seeing.
When we were born, we all received a special gift. Our breath of life. It remains with us throughout our lifetime here on earth until we die. When you seek solitude away from the noise, you connect to its frequency and slowly become aware of the power within you. Our soul awakens! Be still and listen carefully, in the still moments you will hear destiny calling.