Embrace the idea that you are here to learn, so you move from a place of feeling like a failure to someone who is here to learn a new skill.
What comes to your mind when you hear the word, “failure”?
I’ve lived most of my life feeling like a failure and feeling worthless. But what does failure really mean?
It’s a word that forms an illusion where you don’t feel worthy of self.
But think about it, is failure an event that happened or is a person a failure?
The beauty of failure is simple. It is either a gift or a message telling you to move on after an unsuccessful event. That you were previously in the wrong direction. In your heart, you know once you accept and embrace the idea that you are here to learn, you move from a place of feeling like a failure to someone who is here to learn a new skill.
What I discovered is, in all honesty, that I was taught from a young age to fear the stigma of being seen as a failure. This thought had threatened my self-worth!
During my childhood years, I was constantly compared to others who were faster than me when it came to studying at school and in sports. I struggled to keep up with them and was seen to be slow. Because of this, I never felt I was good enough.
Are you living for others to judge you on your capabilities? Or do you want to be truly open to try out new things, to learn and prepare yourself, for your future?
Through the years, I’ve learnt that if your attempt was to enter a prestigious school, or get that high flying job to raise your status or career, but didn’t quite meet your expectations, you would be truly disappointed and start questioning your worth. Even possibly question, why you failed?
But what if you look at it from a different perspective, to see the bigger picture? Ask yourself, why do I need to feel accomplished with status and a career to feel good about myself?
You might learn something really important that you missed out, the ability to learn and discover something special about yourself.
There is a message with every let down in your life. If you listen hard enough internally, you will realise, that which you had searched to achieve was not meant for you to keep. But lo and behold, you discover a hidden treasure, a path to experience something different to your chosen endeavour.
For me, I was told to just move on. Let it go and embrace any disappointment from the rejection. When I regained my clarity, however, I found hidden messages opening a path which led me toward something better. This thought was echoed to me throughout my life, “How would you grow and prepare yourself further, if you never experienced any rejection or disappointment? Be open to changes!”
What is Your Definition of Failure
For me, failure meant I did not prepare myself enough or understood what was needed to push through my challenge. This is why I never had good grades in school. It was because I loved to play and studying was not what I wanted to do. So I never prepared for exams and my fear was that I knew I didn’t prepare for the subject.
Throughout my life, I have had my fair share of hardships and difficulties, but I embraced them in search for what they truly revealed. I was led to live a rich, full life of opportunities which I attracted into my life from the obvious disappointments.
Within you, lies the power to rise above and beyond your potential. If you tap into this power, it will transform your life to become the person you were born to be!
But … how do you ignite this power?
Simple, you embrace any challenge that comes your way. The harder the challenge or adversity, the stronger is this power you ignite.
Let’s face it, you will experience failures and difficulties in your mind first. But know this; these experiences reveal a hidden gem to help you break through those boundaries!
Children are often conditioned to think of failure as a bad experience, or worse, that they, themselves, aren’t good enough. Failure is a gift and it shows you why things didn’t work out as planned. It makes you back-track to figure out what went wrong so you can return stronger. You are worthy, regardless to whether you achieve your full potential or not. You will discover this, if you seek to find it!
I learned this the hard way and now I want to empower you to find your strength and embrace it by learning from your failed attempts. How else will you know when you achieved greatness?
This article was first published on HuffPost.
